Please help. By giving him the chance to do as he pleases with his life, you'll essentially allow him to process the initial stages of a breakup and encourage him to reach out to you and talk to you on equal terms again. You are perfect just the way you are! Use this time to reflect on the experience, gain perspective, and regain your emotional balance. Please. Give it some time and decide that for a certain period of time, you let him go completely. But it started happening everyday. 7. So I dont know if anyone is still on here. I really feel hes being influenced by I guess his cop friends. I think that if you were meant to be, you will find your way back to each other, but this time I wouldnt try to contact him through text or phone and try to move on with my life, as hard as it may seem to you. My Situation Is Quite Different Though But Here Goes. I love him so much and this is very hard for me I am trying to keep my head up but I cant stop thinking that he may never want me again and will move on to someone better. How To Make Your Ex Regret Leaving You Pointer #1 - Don't Contact Your Ex After you have a fresh breakup it's important you don't ever act like a doormat to you ex or that you are too needy. Hes been really sick for the past month and on different medications and he would tell me that he wasnt feeling well or he couldnt hang out because he had other things to do. Note that my friend practically lives on the same street as my ex-boyfriend. And out of nowhere we stared to like each other. When I asked if he changed his mind he ignored me. Especially if shes new and exciting and a fresh start. We met a month later and then we had a gap of 5 months before meeting again. I can tell. I know how you feel, and believe me, millions of other women do too. Ok. I need an advice. I met Nick my junior year during a choir competition and knew that I wanted to get to know him. I obviously still love him. Please help me.. Just let him be and focus on building your confidence and knowing your worth. Attraction (and I dont mean physical attraction) has nothing to do with love. I think you should write him an email telling him how this makes you feel, without accusations and anger though (I know it sounds very hard to do, but its the smart thing to do). A few weeks later he said he was interested in me if I was still interested in him! I was so polite to him. You need to understand that the reason he left you in the first place is that he perceived you as low value, not good enough for . As per the Magic, White Spell compose your name on the white flame. We were doing so well. Please tell me what to do? Months passed and he didnt find anything. A year back this guy gave me enough confidence and was very positive that he would still marry me even if his parents disagree. After a month of NC i eventually gave in and began to reply to his texts. its killing me! We stayed friends at work and hung out during lunch sometimes. On friday i decided to give him some space and spend nights at my mate house. I went away for a week to visit my friend and when I came back I broke the n contact rule and pretty much broke every rule because I couldnt emotionally handle not talking to him. Within two more months, he hardly spoke to me. I am bot texting him but he does text to check on our son and told me he has a job and will send me money. There are ways you can re-attract your boyfriend (and Ill get to that at below), but you have to first understand WHY he left you. I would take my distance from him, give him a chance to think about things and have the opportunity to miss you and realize what hes about to lose. We have a 10 month old son together. We had been dating for almost nine months and I had fallen head over heels for him, and I still am. I cant complain because i am just a friend officially. I had a FWB type situation with a man in an unhappy marriage. Hang in there, everything will be alright. But the last week I have tried to go no contact but she breaks it with texts starting off about the child and then something else. Tie them with the red thread. why does he look so happy when its not even a long time since we broke up! Finally at the end of the day I just wanted to be polite and told him that I got his messages, Im fine thank you. I feel like hes relieved he doesnt have to think about it anymore and will move on so fast, especially since he wont be seeing me at all. I resisted for quite a while, since I was in a relationship, but eventually broke up with my boyfriend to be with this guy. We were good for about another two weeks until I tried to really convince him to leave his miserable marriage. I hope this helps and good luck! Hes just gone. I would find myself apologizing for things I knew I didnt do. Please, Im begging you, do not live with a man that hits you. Mainly I just dont want to feel like the last couple months have been a lie because thats what hurts the most. But I dont know how to do things. I have always loved him and always felt his love in the way he treated me(sometimes lol). As soon as they broke up, he started talking to me again. I uninstalled all social media from my phone. We started dating again and it was fantastic we spent so many great times together and made amazing memories. 1.5 months are gone so far and he hasnt even apologized for lying, instead he is approaching my best friend (but didnt bring our subject to her yet). Do we even have a chance or am I wasting my time and should move on. This is only pushing him further away from you, and into the arms of another girl. Things began to fall apart and he decided to end it with me saying that he felt confused, felt no more attraction and wasnt sure about what he wanted. and I know how hard it is to keep it together when you run into him accidentally. Even though I know I cant. But what i did last time, calling him and crying a little bit reminding our good memories to him and how much I loved him..but i didnt beg for his coming back. After sharing your deepest fears with him. Its been nearly a month till our break up and I miss him like crazy, I dont understand what happened so suddenly. This time he was rude and blunt and just flat out insensitive. Did I rush? We ask for forgiveness (even if we didnt do anything wrong), we beg for a second chance. I actually need advice about my break-up that happened two days ago. The best way to make him regret leaving you is by acting like it was the best thing that could have ever happened to you. We were having many fights. Thats not who I am and I made a mistake. Then a couple of weeks later I asked him if he still liked me and he told me yes. He keep coming up to me and touching me , my hand etc , nothing big but its a lot for him as he doesnt give affection just like that. Im sorry youre going through this, I know, its hard. I tried no contact rule. Recently he was at one of the same events I was at and we bumped into each other and he hugged me and I miss him so much. Itll be o.k. Theres another option you havent thought about: What if the distance will allow him to miss you, and realize what he has gave up? This is complicated a bit by the fact that we work together. To get a guy to regret leaving you, you must limit the damage already done, amplify the traits he loved about you, and then cut him off from them completely. He again said No, youre amazing. If you are patient, and maintain a good friendship with her (without pressuring her to get back together) theres a good chance that its going to happen. Is there even a possibility to get him to be afraid of losing me or even stop being wishy-washy about staying? Now, fold the paper touching your names. So long story short I told him nicely just please dont contact me ever again and that Im with someone new and that I wish him the best . He also has a daughter from previous marriage which she nine years old and hes fighting a divorce right now. I want him to see potential in me & actually give me a chance.. You are loved, always. Following day he called me to inform that hecw will be visiting home to see his son.i tld him its okay. He messages me and ask what do i need and i reply and said it was an accident. I want him to miss me and go crazy after me. he broke up with me and i still cannot fathom that this is my new reality. Will he miss us and wanna come home? My son was born in nov. And he told me he wasnt happy with his life blamed me for everything and left me with my 15 month old daughter and my son was only two weeks old. I dont know what to do because his signals are so confusing. Hi All, I have been seeing this guy on off for 5 months. By the second day I had told him I was doing just fine and he said he was happy as well. Ive texted him a few times and hes just rude. We are expecting a baby together. He has to believe what you wrote him, right? Throughout the trip, we had both began to really like each other so much that he would hold my hand while we sat together and didnt mind me spending my time with my friends while he did the same. He was hired back on at my work shortly after. They still check in through friends, social media, and other contacts without you knowing. Its like i met a guy and we became really good friends in a vet short period of time. There are plenty of other dudes to actually love you and not reduce you to a side piece. The best way to show him what he's missing is to focus on yourself, not him. I am giving him space right now.. You have to change your mind. Its best that we dont talk right now, but I would like to be friends eventually.. i was in relationship with this guy since 10 years I understand, but why do we bother trying to win them back? I know its hard to think about, what this situation was created by both of you, as with every relationship. After that he suggested to meet again , so he had dropped her. We had just completed our wedding registry a few weeks prior test drove a car all these happy moments and then all of a sudden he was gone The day after he left he came back over said he just needed a break to work on himself and the marines and he said he still wanted to work things out and he was still talking about our future house and he said he loved me and asked me for a kiss before he left. And said he had met another. Then out of no where he was wrong to think he had feelings and is still in love with his ex from years ago (who is now married to his best friend, what a moron he is). When I asked him why he did it like that he admitted that e panicked and didnt know what to do. The problem with texting is that you have to do it the right way, or it can ruin everything. We were limitted that way but still had a great laugh, fun and love. Shes in the town that hes in and Im not. The next day. Then he texted the next day to which I replied normally. Personally I think there is no such thing as the one. After our break up he is keeping on sending me texts almost everyday asking how I was feeling and what I was doing. i didnt tell him about my past.CZ it was a childish emotion. Plus, falling back into a routine can help put your brain on autopilot, and it might help distract you from what just happened with your boyfriend (at least for a little while). You can write him back, telling him again that you prefer not to be in contact at this point. A few hours later, I meet up with a friend and I tell everything. I hate him so much. We were happy. We became close friends and he eventually confessed to being in love with me. But he never called me or text me.